Fathers Need A Right To Groom Their Daughters And Sons

Posted: Sep 8th, 2010 | Rating: 0/5 | Views: 76 | Rank Points: 760 | Comments: 0

It is a general perception that it is the women who suffer in a marital misunderstanding or divorce and it is only because they are too vocal about the things they stand to loose or have lost. But nobody, neither the law pays heed to those men who suffer silently. Yes, it has been seen that in 65% of the divorce cases, mothers get the custody of their children and the fathers are imposed lots of restriction in meeting their child.

Unlike the common perception, fathers are equally doting towards their wards and this why it is completely wrong to alienate them from their sons and daughters in the eventuality of any divorce. There have been many cases where they have been debarred by the law to even send a greeting card to their sons or daughters, leave aside the pleasure of meeting.

But it can not be debated that an overall growth of a child depends on the love, care and affection showered by parents, father as well as mother. So, why it is that father rights network become the silent spectators whereas the mother takes complete control of child in case of divorce. It has to do with the beliefs which have been incorporated in general human psyche since long time. And the belief is that females are weaker hence they are the original suffers. This might have been true in the erstwhile robust patriarchal society but in the contemporary world of equal participation this is nothing but a biased opinion.

The exact solution would require the law making and law enforcing agencies to take an impartial view and then only the decision of custody should be conferred. This might take some time but the growth of the concerned child is worth it. Well, let us for a second assume that fathers would not be hurt or affected by separation from their child, as being the male gender they are known to control their emotions. But, is the vice-versa true? Will the child not crave for his or her father? Yes he or she will and with the same intensity that he/she craves for his/her mother.

The concerned government agencies and courts must have to understand that both father and child require each other in their own capacity but it is the child whose requirement is more intense and important. And this is why an equal parental participation in the responsible growth of the child should be encouraged and practiced.